An incident occurs when the safe environment around us is being shaken and broken, such as being fired, losing a loved one, disease, etc. And it often ends with hurt, pain, and unsweetened memories, something broken. And we are usually told that … it makes us grow.
So if there are no incidents, no vibration, impact, break effects from them, then can we grow? We are not insects to instinctively know that we need to molt to grow. On the contrary, people always prefer to be wrapped in safe cocoon and protected from risks and events. It’s not about right or wrong…. it’s just about the fact that we can’t grow when we do not allow and give ourselves chances to do it
For the question above, my answer is YES. We can still grow without external incidents. And that’s when we are:
- Wise enough to know that we have to grow constantly
- Determined enough to take actions despite all barriers
- Brave enough to shake ourselves and break the very safe environment that surrounds us.
- Faithful enough to step forward as we understand that this is the way to create a better version of ourselves. The version that is suitable for our future dreams and goals.
Why am I talking about this today? After a long time of observing, working and supporting human development. The words I often hear are “I’m lost. I don’t know what to do with my life.” And I always respond with, “Congratulations, you’re in the process of becoming a better version of yourself.”
Of course, the feeling of being lost, unsteady, doubtful, disoriented doesn’t sound fun at all. It is the stage where you feel that something wrong that needs to be changed, there is something smouldering, that deeply buried underground about to emerge, there is something scratching, strange … Something. Yes something…. You just don’t know what exactly that something is. And with its urge, it makes you create vibrations, collisions, and even break your current status. It sounds horrible and scary, right? But the fact is, if you understand that it is only a transition of the whole process of development and growth give is ahead you, you will calmly and readily welcome it. People do not build a new house right on an old house. People build on the ruins of the old.
Don’t be scared!
Love and Light